So, you have this life plan that you’ve mapped out that by a certain age, you’ll be married and have two kids, a dog, and a cat, maybe a hamster. You then meet the right guy and you thought your plan would start to unfold like it should. When that doesn’t happen, you realize that it wasn’t as easy as you thought it was going to be.
After years of searching for answers, you are handed a diagnosis of infertility. Your whole world is now turned upside down, your plan seems impossible to execute. Where do you go from here? What will happen if you try everything and pregnancy is still impossible? Who would you then become? Would you still be you? Would you feel like a failure? These are all the little voices inside of you that are nagging you constantly.
I want you to meet Shannon Wooten, my guest for today’s show. Shannon is an author, speaker and life coach. Her passion is to help women struggling to conceive to shift their mindset and find their self-value amidst a diagnosis such as infertility that makes you question who you are, what value you bring to the world now that you’ve been diagnosed with infertility, and how you can go on living in a reality that is not what you thought it would be.
Now, full disclosure I’ve known Shannon for quite some time. She is a patient of mine at Inner Peace Acupuncture. Through helping her on her journey, we’ve become close friends and business mastermind buddies. She is definitely a success story, but not in the way most of you think of success.
Just to warn you ahead of time, Shannon doesn’t hold anything back, she tells it like it is so there maybe some words that are inappropriate for young children, so I suggest that if you like to listen to my podcast in the car, please either put ear muff on your little ones or listen to it with your headphones plugged in.
And also I want to make it very clear that Shannon is not telling you to stop trying, nor is she saying that you don’t need a baby to be happy. On the contrary she is saying try your hearts out, but just don’t lose yourself in the process because you deserve to be happy, you are not defined by your diagnosis.
So often, we make up stories for ourselves because we all hate to fail and hate to be disappointed. But the stories trap us and prevents us from taking action.
In today's episode (a shorter one than usual,) I talk about the one question you should be asking yourself when you feel defeated and unmotivated, and finding yourself derailed. This question is something that people don't think about but it's exactly this questions that's going to set you up for success when times get tough.
I've been working hard on Practically Fertile, my online fertility-boosting program. I have an entire module dedicated to emotional well-being in what I call the Happiness Formula. I give you techniques on how to overcome some challenges such as self-sabotaging and repeated negative behavior patterns as part of the formula. I’m not a psychotherapist so my techniques are based on taking action to reprogram and reframe your way of thinking.
But, I’ve been noticing that over and over again in my practice and the private facebook group, that many people are struggling with things such as, how to say no to a baby shower, how to handle pregnancy announcements, how to create you own support system, how to deal with people who tell you “relax and it’ll happen,” How to deal with negativity from others without spiraling into a depression with them, and how to deal with all the emotions that come after a miscarriage.
And I thought these are real struggles people have, many people get into a funk or a downward spiral and either cant get themselves out of it, or don’t know how. There are some real and raw emotions that come with infertility and it’s hard to sort through them all. So the reprogram and reframe techniques might not work because sometimes you need to deal with the emotions that come up
I knew I needed some extra help. So I thought as an added bonus, I would interview my good friend, and fertility counselor Johanna Hyland, LCSW to add an extra layer, to give another perspective and actionable tips to help people overcome these emotional challenges.
Johanna is an expert in the field of fertility counseling and she has received extra training to incorporate mindfulness techniques into her practice.
We had an amazing interview and it was one of the best I’ve ever done. And after the recording, I just thought the information was too good not to share with my listeners. We really dug in deep and she gave such valuable tips. So I thought I would take a portion of my interview with her and share it on the podcast. I’m not going to share the entire interview because I want to be fair to my future paying clients but I think you’re still going to get so much value and insights from what I’ve shared.
Some of the link I mentioned in the podcast are:
2. Johanna's website: http://www.healingheartcharlotte.com/
Enjoy and have a great week!
So everyone knows that you must have a period in order to get pregnant. But what about those who suffer from Hypothalamic Amenorrhea or HA?
Hypothalamic amenorrhea is a condition where a period is absent for longer than 6 months and usually caused by stress, under-eating, over-exercising, etc. Logan suffered from HA after the birth of her second child, but she had this incredible drive and determination to get her health back on track.
You'll find in this interview:
Here is some of the link mentioned in the show:
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Welcome to episode 001 of the How to Get Healthy and Get Pregnant podcast. In this very first episode, I’m going to share a bit about me so you get to know me better, and also talk about what this podcast is about, who it’s for and why I’m so passionate about the topic.
I'm a holistic fertility expert with a background in acupuncture and Chinese medicine. In this podcast, I'll be providing practical tips from a Western and Chinese medicine perspective to put a fresh spin on the topics related to women's fertility issues.
For those who are ready to dive in deeper, and super charge their fertility, please visit my website at www.adriennewei.com and check out my online course Practically Fertile, a 5-Step system designed to help you zone in on exactly what you need to do to get pregnant.
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