Today’s episode is going to be on FOMO, have you ever heard of that word? FOMO, fear of missing out. That grass is always greener feeling, and there’s always something better out there.
Have you ever had this uneasy and anxious feeling that everyone else’s life is better than yours? Are you the type of read at least 10 reviews before buying a toaster just to make sure that there’s nothing better than this one toaster you’re thinking about getting?
Or how about this, you’ve heard about this big party, and you’re not really sure if you want to go but at the same time you’re thinking well what it’s super fun, you don’t want to miss out, but you really would rather stay home and watch a movie.
FOMO actually made it into the Oxford dictionary in 2013, and by definition it mean the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you’re missing out – that your peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than you.
Suffering from FOMO has real consequences. My goal for this episode is to open up the dialogue and conversation about FOMO because I feel like most of us who suffer from FOMO don't realize that it's alive and well.
So we're going to talk about how to avoid FOMO so we can all make better decisions and feel good about those decisions.
In Chinese medicine we talk about energy flow and how important it is for your energy to flow properly. If it gets stuck, you’ll have problems. But what about the energy flow of your environment?
What if you’re living in a super cluttered space, what if you’re working with a toxic person every day? Have you ever wondered why some plants keep dying in certain places, why you walk into a room and the air just seems stuffy?
You’re not crazy, it’s not in your head. It’s all about Feng Shui.
If you have heard of feng shui before you kinda know a little bit about what I’m talking about. You might start thinking arrange furniture a certain way, placing good luck charm in certain place, and using certain colors to bring in good energy and good luck. If this is the first time you’ve heard the words feng shui, you are not alone.
Feng shui is an art and science. It’s more than just energy placement, it’s about creating a harmonious environment where your health, your relationship, your finances will all flourish.
I want to properly introduce our guest for today’s episode. Her name is Kelly Jones. She is a Feng Shui expert, healer, author and speaker. Kelly is going to debunk some myths around Feng Shui and then give you some action items so that you can harmonize the energy around you to boost your fertility.
If you are interested in Kelly's consultations, please visit her website: www.kellysjones.net
And you can also call Kelly directly at 919-200-8686
I’m so excited, let’s dive into the interview.
In this episode, we’re going to talk about how to know if you’re ready for medical intervention.
I love the fact that reproductive medicine has advanced so much now because 30 years ago, IVF wasn’t even an option. And now many women are able to get pregnant and become mothers because of it.
But I think because IUI or IVF is a readily available option, many people are jumping into these procedures pre-maturely, at least in my opinion.
I totally get it, it’s so disheartening to get that big fat negative every single month, and when everyone around you is getting pregnant except you, of course if there’s an easier way, why not?
But today I want to specifically talk to you about why even if you’re considering IUI, IVF you need to make sure that your body is ready because guess what, IVF is only a 46% success rate.
I’m going to talk about the steps you need to take before you even think about IUI or IVF. And for some of you who are on the fence about IUI or IVF, this episode is going to also help you make the decision.
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So, you have this life plan that you’ve mapped out that by a certain age, you’ll be married and have two kids, a dog, and a cat, maybe a hamster. You then meet the right guy and you thought your plan would start to unfold like it should. When that doesn’t happen, you realize that it wasn’t as easy as you thought it was going to be.
After years of searching for answers, you are handed a diagnosis of infertility. Your whole world is now turned upside down, your plan seems impossible to execute. Where do you go from here? What will happen if you try everything and pregnancy is still impossible? Who would you then become? Would you still be you? Would you feel like a failure? These are all the little voices inside of you that are nagging you constantly.
I want you to meet Shannon Wooten, my guest for today’s show. Shannon is an author, speaker and life coach. Her passion is to help women struggling to conceive to shift their mindset and find their self-value amidst a diagnosis such as infertility that makes you question who you are, what value you bring to the world now that you’ve been diagnosed with infertility, and how you can go on living in a reality that is not what you thought it would be.
Now, full disclosure I’ve known Shannon for quite some time. She is a patient of mine at Inner Peace Acupuncture. Through helping her on her journey, we’ve become close friends and business mastermind buddies. She is definitely a success story, but not in the way most of you think of success.
Just to warn you ahead of time, Shannon doesn’t hold anything back, she tells it like it is so there maybe some words that are inappropriate for young children, so I suggest that if you like to listen to my podcast in the car, please either put ear muff on your little ones or listen to it with your headphones plugged in.
And also I want to make it very clear that Shannon is not telling you to stop trying, nor is she saying that you don’t need a baby to be happy. On the contrary she is saying try your hearts out, but just don’t lose yourself in the process because you deserve to be happy, you are not defined by your diagnosis.
So often, we make up stories for ourselves because we all hate to fail and hate to be disappointed. But the stories trap us and prevents us from taking action.
In today's episode (a shorter one than usual,) I talk about the one question you should be asking yourself when you feel defeated and unmotivated, and finding yourself derailed. This question is something that people don't think about but it's exactly this questions that's going to set you up for success when times get tough.
I've been working hard on Practically Fertile, my online fertility-boosting program. I have an entire module dedicated to emotional well-being in what I call the Happiness Formula. I give you techniques on how to overcome some challenges such as self-sabotaging and repeated negative behavior patterns as part of the formula. I’m not a psychotherapist so my techniques are based on taking action to reprogram and reframe your way of thinking.
But, I’ve been noticing that over and over again in my practice and the private facebook group, that many people are struggling with things such as, how to say no to a baby shower, how to handle pregnancy announcements, how to create you own support system, how to deal with people who tell you “relax and it’ll happen,” How to deal with negativity from others without spiraling into a depression with them, and how to deal with all the emotions that come after a miscarriage.
And I thought these are real struggles people have, many people get into a funk or a downward spiral and either cant get themselves out of it, or don’t know how. There are some real and raw emotions that come with infertility and it’s hard to sort through them all. So the reprogram and reframe techniques might not work because sometimes you need to deal with the emotions that come up
I knew I needed some extra help. So I thought as an added bonus, I would interview my good friend, and fertility counselor Johanna Hyland, LCSW to add an extra layer, to give another perspective and actionable tips to help people overcome these emotional challenges.
Johanna is an expert in the field of fertility counseling and she has received extra training to incorporate mindfulness techniques into her practice.
We had an amazing interview and it was one of the best I’ve ever done. And after the recording, I just thought the information was too good not to share with my listeners. We really dug in deep and she gave such valuable tips. So I thought I would take a portion of my interview with her and share it on the podcast. I’m not going to share the entire interview because I want to be fair to my future paying clients but I think you’re still going to get so much value and insights from what I’ve shared.
Some of the link I mentioned in the podcast are:
2. Johanna's website: http://www.healingheartcharlotte.com/
Enjoy and have a great week!
So everyone knows that you must have a period in order to get pregnant. But what about those who suffer from Hypothalamic Amenorrhea or HA?
Hypothalamic amenorrhea is a condition where a period is absent for longer than 6 months and usually caused by stress, under-eating, over-exercising, etc. Logan suffered from HA after the birth of her second child, but she had this incredible drive and determination to get her health back on track.
You'll find in this interview:
Here is some of the link mentioned in the show:
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Welcome to episode 001 of the How to Get Healthy and Get Pregnant podcast. In this very first episode, I’m going to share a bit about me so you get to know me better, and also talk about what this podcast is about, who it’s for and why I’m so passionate about the topic.
I'm a holistic fertility expert with a background in acupuncture and Chinese medicine. In this podcast, I'll be providing practical tips from a Western and Chinese medicine perspective to put a fresh spin on the topics related to women's fertility issues.
For those who are ready to dive in deeper, and super charge their fertility, please visit my website at www.adriennewei.com and check out my online course Practically Fertile, a 5-Step system designed to help you zone in on exactly what you need to do to get pregnant.
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