In our private group, I get this general feeling that there’s so much information out there and it’s hard to figure out who to listen to or what applies to you. But a common theme that I’m sensing is that many people are putting stress on their bodies without even realizing it.
If you remember from a previous episode, we went over the idea of the kidney energy reservoir and how genetics, lifestyle choices can seriously impact how quickly we use up the energy in the reservoir. Even though I think people get this concept that if you withdraw from a savings bank without depositing back in, you’ll end up with a deficit...I don’t think the message really hit home because Chinese medicine concepts can be a little abstract.
So today I want to approach this from a functional medicine perspective and talk about stress, the different types of stress, and how it seriously damages your HPA axis and therefore can affect your chances of getting pregnant.
In this episode, I will:
I’ve also created an assessment for you to gauges your risk for HPA axis Dysregulation, and it will quickly give you an idea of where you fall on the spectrum.
To get your hands on this assessment, you can download it at adriennewei.com/63download.
Let’s face it, in today’s modern world, information is a commodity because we can just open Google, type in our questions, and boom! We get access to hundreds and thousands of search results.
If you want a recipe, you can hop on pinterest and there are thousands of recipes to choose from.
And then also you have that friend or blogger who has the heart of gold with all good intentions. She wants to share with you what worked for her, the one supplement that made a difference, or this great cleanse she went on and that was the month she got pregnant.
And it’s hard not to look at your own situation and go, gosh I wonder if that will work for me.
You get what I’m saying right? No wonder you can get confused.
But based on my experience, I find that we tend to filter the information. We only see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear. If we come across a piece of information and for whatever reason it resonates with us, we’re going to want to be believe it.
So my main goal for this episode is to going to teach you to be your own guide, and navigate through the fertility information jungle in a really smart way. Not to completely stop googling or reading blog, but to be able to look at the information with a critical eye.
So today, I want you to meet Sarah.
Sarah is a mom to a beautiful little boy and she is trying to conceive for the second time but unfortunately suffered two miscarriages back to back.
In this episode, we talk a lot about nutrition because Sarah is a vegetarian and has been for many years. Even though animal protein is my preferred source for proteins, I never ever force anyone to stop being a vegetarian. So don’t worry, I do not try to convince Sarah to switch her eating habits. But I give Sarah a few pointers on how to adjust her diet to boost her fertility.
Sarah is super inquisitive. She asked a bunch of great questions that I think you’re going to love hearing the answers to. Some of these questions I see coming up over and over again in our private group, so it’s going to provide clarity for those of you who are confused about certain concepts.
It sounds familiar right?
You're doing everything possible to improve your health and get pregnant, but your husband or partner doesn't seem to understand or willing to pull their fair share of the weight...especially when sperm quality issues are the reasons standing between you and your growing family.
In today's episode, I interview licensed counselor Kasandra Wheeler to get her top tips on how to start these difficult conversations with our S.O. without getting into a screaming match.
Kasandra shares her tips on what to do when:
1. Your husband doesn't seem to understand the emotional impact of the BFN.
2. He has poor sperm quality but is unwilling to make the lifestyle changes.
3. He is unwilling to explore other treatment options such as IVF, IUI, or alternative therapies.
Kasandra also shares her "Worry-Period" technique for reducing overall anxiety and depression.
#58 - The One Thing I'm Scared to Tell You
In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about the blueprint to pregnancy and which areas you should focus your attention and what your blueprint to pregnancy should look like.
This episode is inspired by a trend of what I call “kitchen sink fertility.” I’m not shaming or blaming or criticizing you. I just see so many women overcomplicate things. Kitchen sink fertility is a knee jerk reaction when you first realize that you’re faced with fertility challenges. So you literally try every single trick that you read about and take every single supplement that you can hoping something will work. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. And when they don’t, you’re more frustrated because you cannot figure out why it’s not working. And then you get depressed because you feel like there’s nothing more to do.
I hear from a lot of you that you’re overwhelmed, you don’t know which way to turn, or where to start looking for answers. So today, I want to share with you a step by step process to help you come up with your own blueprint to getting pregnant.
This past Monday, I did something scary and felt really vulnerable. In the special episode, I talked about how I’m restructuring all my programs hoping to serve you better and help you get pregnant. But if I can be honest with you, it was kind of an emotional episode for me to record.
Before I hit publish for that episode, I went through a range of emotions. I was scared of being judged. In my head I was playing out what other people would say, like “oh there she goes again, wishy-washy, always changing things up.” Or “that was one huge sales pitch and she’s just using this as an opportunity to promote her program.” I also felt like I’ve let other people down. It felt like I had pulled the rug from underneath all the people that were perhaps thinking about joining the membership site. Also I felt like I’ve let myself down, like a failure that after two years here I am back at square one and still figuring things out.
Over the years, somehow I got it in my head that my self-worth is tied to how others think of me. I always feel like I have to maintain a certain image and have to be perfect.
But, I sort of had a moment after I hit publish on Monday for the special episode. As I worked through all my emotions, I said to myself, “wow, how will I inspire others to take action and face their fears if I am not leading by example.”
So that brings me to today’s episode.
I am going to take the first step towards conquering my fear of being judged or criticized by sharing something that I’ve been afraid to tell you.
This is going to be pretty deep, and I appreciate the fact that you’re giving me this opportunity to share my thoughts as I work towards more self compassion and more self acceptance.
So let’s dive in.
Today, we’re going to be talking about a healthy diet vs a fertile diet and I’m going to shock you by talking about one hormone that’s the most crucial for fertility (hint: it’s not estrogen.)
Anytime I post anything about nutrition or diet, the posts always generate the most responses. I think this an area that most people struggle with. Food across all cultures bring up emotions for everyone, whether it’s joy, sadness, anger, fear, whatever. Humans have such deep emotional connection to food because we have to eat to live.
But what I find is that there are lots of misconceptions around nutrition and what’s healthy what’s not. I have a dramatically different viewpoint on nutrition than a lot of other practitioners and coaches. I don’t believe a healthy diet is necessarily a fertile diet, but type in fertiles diets in google, and your eyes might pop out from the number of results and also the different people telling you different things.
So the purpose of this episode is not to convince you that what I recommend is the best, or which diet you should be following. But I hope this episode can really explain how nutrition plays a role to help you get pregnant or how it can actually be preventing you from getting pregnant if you’re not eating a fertile diet. I’m a firm believer that knowledge is power, if you truly understand a concept then it becomes easier to make changes and stick to a plan.
Ep 55 - Overview of Male Fertility
I don’t know if this sounds like you...but, in my ten years of coaching women on how to get pregnant, I’ve seen this plenty of times.
At some point of your journey, you’re going to get to a point where you feel defeated because nothing you’re doing is working. At times you may even question your own will power, maybe I’m just not cut out for this. This happens so frequently, and it’s not your fault.
So in today’s episode, I want to talk about how to regain your motivation when you feel defeated. I want to help you to get back to when you first started trying-to-conceive, to that level of excitement you had before any of the heartaches and disappointments started to take over.
I know how hard it can be to keep charging forward when you feel like the odds are stacked up against you, when you feel alone, when you feel sad and depressed.
There is no magic pill that you can take to go from” one minute laying on the floor crying” to “the next minute you’re ready to conquer the world.” But I’m going to share with you my tips and tricks to help you get back on the horse, and keep moving forward towards your goal.
Let’s dive right in.
#26 - Ask this one question if you feel defeated
#49 - How to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from pregnancy (Part 1)
#50 - How to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from pregnancy (part 2)
Today, we’re going to talk about male fertility because guess what, it still takes two-to-tango, and you need a sperm and an egg to get pregnant.
Male fertility sometimes gets overlooked. And I don’t know if it’s something deeper but when a couple is having trouble conceiving, the woman is the presumed person with the problem. But here is the scary thing, male fertility issues now account for 40% of all infertility cases.
So in this episode, I’m going to give you an overview of male fertility, from a western point of view and from a chinese medicine perspective. When it comes to male fertility, the nutrition, lifestyle, and supplement requirements are slightly different than female fertility. We’re going to get to all that eventually in upcoming episodes, but today we’re just going to be looking at the bigger picture of male fertility. I also get a lot of questions about how to read semen analysis results so I’m going to go over that as well.
I firmly believe that the more information you have, the more empowered you will be and the better decisions you will make. So let’s dive right in.
Today’s guest is Hilary, a member of the Practically Fertile™ Club.
Hilary reached out to me on one of our group coaching calls, and I decided to offer her the honor coaching opportunity because I needed more information about her situation to be able to answer her questions. I also thought it might be helpful to some of you who are in the same situation.
Hilary has been trying-to-conceive for 5 years. She’s currently in between IVF cycles and her major challenge is getting the uterine lining to the optimal thickness for a frozen embryo transfer.
In this coaching call, I help Hilary make tweaks to her nutrition plan and exercise plan to boost the amount of blood flow to the uterus.
Keep in mind that even though everyone is different and Hilary’s plan isn’t necessarily the right plan for you, you’re still going to gain new understanding and learn tips and tricks whether you’re on the IVF journey or you’re trying to conceive naturally.
Let’s dive into my live 1-on-1 honor coaching call with Hilary.
We live in a world where we are always on the go and sleep seems so overrated. God forbid if you sleep-in or take a nap, then you might feel like you’re missing out on something or people might think you’re lazy.
That is so wrong, especially for someone trying to get pregnant. I bet a lot of you don’t think about how sleep could possibly be affecting your fertility.
I often ask my patients about sleep and they always say sleep is good. But when I dive in deeper, I find that they’re actually tossing and turning all night long, or having to get up to use the bathroom at least once, or it takes more than an hour to fall asleep.
So in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how sleep ties into better fertility, what hormones are involved, and how much sleep you really need. Yes, there really is such thing as too much sleep.
Then I’ll give you my top 4 tips on how to improve your sleep hygiene without the use of medication.
Let’s dive in!
Today’s episode is going to be a really useful one. We’re going to be talking about Chinese medicine, and specifically the Chinese medicine perspective on the menstrual cycle.
In Episode 47 I talked about the four substances according to Chinese medicine. Today, we’re going to deep dive. You’ll get a better idea of how each substance corresponds to the 4 phases of the menstrual cycle and what you need to do to boost your fertility.
And I have a super awesome freebie for you too, it’s a recipes collection. I’m going to give you a sample recipe for each phase of the menstrual cycle.
To get your hands on this freebie, you can download it at adriennewei.com/52download.
Episode 40 - Why Was It So Easy for Her, But Not For Me
Episode 47 - The Four Substances and How They Affect Fertility
I’m so excited for 2018 because there are just so many things to look forward to.
This episode is a facebook live interview that I conducted with Shannon Schultz-Wooten. Many of you are familiar with Shannon. She is a life coach with a speciality in helping others with fertility challenges move the blocks out of the way that are preventing them from moving forward and achieving future goals. She is also the author of “Infertility sucks, you don’t.”
Shannon was my guest for episode #29 where we talked about how the fertility journey has so many similarities with the five stages of grief. I thought the facebook live interview I did with Shannon would be the perfect episode to round out the year 2017. As we head into 2018 and as many of you reflect on the year 2017, you might be feeling a bit down on yourself if you didn’t get pregnant this year. You may feel like a failure. I don’t want you to head into 2018 with this type of mindset.
As mentioned before, Shannon is known for taking the 5 stages of grief and applying that to the TTC process. In this interview, Shannon and I specifically discuss the final stage which is acceptance.
Here are some of what we discussed:
My purpose with this episode is to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel whether or not pregnancy is the outcome. When you’ve been trying to conceive for a while, it seem like it’s never going to happen. But I want you to trust yourself, trust the process, and know that you’re going to be OK no matter what happens.
#29 - Interview with Shannon Shulz-Wooten: Infertility Sucks, You Don’t
Today’s episode is part 2 of How to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from pregnancy.
To quickly review, limiting beliefs are show stoppers. They stop us in our tracks and prevent us from moving forward. Just by having these beliefs, we do not think, do or say the things that the beliefs prevent us from thinking, doing or saying and we totally sabotage ourselves.
Limiting beliefs can be “I am not very good at this,” “this is too hard,” “I can never do this,” “I’m never going to get pregnant,” “ I’m that annoying person,” “people are going to laugh at me.”
And the ways we come up with these limiting beliefs is through life experiences, what others have said, our fears, and our assumptions that we know what others will do, think or say .
So in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to actually overcome limiting beliefs whatever they might be.
Let’s dive right in.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Episode 49: How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs That Are Preventing You From Pregnancy (Part I)
Do you ever find yourself saying things like “I’m infertile,” “I don’t have the willpower,” “people think I’m annoying,””I can’t do this,” “this is too hard.”
We probably all have said something similar. These are what we call limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are show stoppers. They stop us in our tracks and prevent us from moving forward. Just by having these beliefs, we do not think, do or say the things that the beliefs prevent us from thinking, doing or saying. And we end up totally sabotage ourselves.
Having a fertile mindset is as important as having a fertile cycle and a fertile lifestyle.
Today's episode is part 1 of a two part series on how to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from getting pregnant. We learn what limiting beliefs are and where they comes from.
Let's dive in.
Today, I want you to meet Heather, a member of the Practically Fertile Club.
Heather has gone through three rounds of IUI and is currently taking a break to get healthy before trying again. Heather’s challenges right now is with the nutrition plan. She is trying to stick to the plan as closely as possible but is gaining weight instead of losing weight which she needs for optimal hormonal balance.
The reason I reached out to Heather to offer her the honor coaching call is that I know so many of you are also struggling with the nutrition piece of the puzzle. You think you’re doing the right thing, but you’re not getting the results you’re looking for.
So I think you’re going to really enjoy this episode because it helps to know that you’re not alone. I know some of you when you hear Heather’s story, you’ll be nodding your head “yes, that’s me.” And even though no two people are alike and what I’m recommending for Heather isn’t necessarily what I would recommend for you, I know you’re still going to walk away with new ideas that might apply to your own situation.
I had Heather send me her food journal for a week prior to our call. And we were able to uncover three reasons why she is gaining weight instead of losing weight.
The good news is the last time I checked in with her, the weight had started to come off.
I’m so excited for you to listen to this, let’s jump into my on-air coaching call with Heather.
Welcome to episode 47.
I touched on the core principle of Chinese medicine in episode #43. In that episode I talked about how the guiding principle of Chinese medicine is to always strive for balance.
But specifically what do we try to balance? You hear me tossing around the terms qi stagnation, qi deficiency, blood deficiency, yin deficiency, what do these all mean?
In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the four substances, Qi, Blood, Yin and Yang.
These four substances power your body by working together. When one of them is out of whack, it will affect the rest.
Let’s dive in and find out why they’re important and how they affect your balance.
#43 - The Core Principle of Chinese Medicine
#40 - Why Was It Easy For Her, But Not Me
Today, I’m going to talk about a topic that is for sure going to stir up a debate and I’m probably going to get some hate mail.
The topic is animal protein vs. plant-based protein. I get this questions very often from the women with whom I consult. “Really, I can have red meat? I thought that was bad for you?” Or “Really? I read this book and it said plant based diets were way better for fertility so I stopped eating animal protein.”
We can have debate on ethics some other time, but if you’re trying to get pregnant and you’re asking for my advice, I’m going to be honest with you and tell you like it is because this is my area of expertise.
When it comes to hormone balance, and especially trying to get pregnant, animal proteins provide the most complete source of amino acids which are the building blocks for hormones, and plant proteins do not.
Let’s dive in to take a deeper look.
Today, I actually want to revisit an old topic that we’ve talked about a lot this past year. And that is gut health.
I want to revisit gut health because since episode 3 aired, the responses and questions have been overwhelming because it’s a new way of looking at nutrition, and how specifically it affects fertility.
In the US, salads are the go to "health" foods. And most people grew up drinking milk. So cutting out dairy and ditching the smoothies and salads for most people, presents a huge lifestyle change.
Through working with clients and talking to women in our private Facebook group, I see three main obstacles that people are encountering when they make this shift to no raw foods and no dairy.
So let's dive in and talk about how to overcome these obstacles.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Podcast episodes mentioned:
Episode 3 - Why Gut Health is So Important for Fertility
What if you’ve never had a natural cycle for almost 10 years? What if you were bouncing around from doctor to doctor looking for answers and the best advice they can give is to take medicine?
This is the incredible story of Susie who was diagnosed with hypothalamic amenorrhea and PCOS. She went from feeling hopeless to getting pregnant.
You’ll hear from her talk about:
I hope Susie’s story will leave you feeling a bit more inspired, a bit more hopeful knowing that you too can overcome your obstacles because there is no such thing as infertility.
Susie mentioned working with me 1-on-1, but you also have the option to join the Practically Fertile Club, a membership site where you can get courses, workshops advice and support to help you get pregnant.
I’m looking for Founding Members now and Founding Members enjoy a lifetime rate that never changes no matter what. To get on my waitlist please visit adriennewei.com/memberswaitlist.
Today is special for two reasons.
First, it’s the one year anniversary for when I launched the podcast. One year, can’t believe it. My podcast has been downloaded 7374 times this last month. Compared to the very first month last year, I had 149 downloads. That’s so awesome!
I am so thankful for all of you who are sharing this podcast and spreading the word for me. I so appreciate it. Without you, my podcast would not be where it is today. And of course, we’re going to just keep growing, keep spreading the word and helping women everywhere to get pregnant with less stress and less anxiety.
The second reason is that the Practically Fertile™ program that I've been working so hard on this past year is launching today. Yes, yes, today is the day! This labor of love that I’ve been working on, tweaking, fine tuning, beta testing is finally ready.
So today, I want to talk about the Practically Fertile™ program, why it’s awesome, and also my 1 on 1 coaching program. Because many of you are not sure where to spend your hard earned dollars to get maximum results in the shortest amount of time.
Isn’t that what we all want? Quicker results in less time? HAHA :)
So let's dive in!
I always talk about how Chinese medicine is really different than Western medicine. Because one medical system looks for the root cause of diseases and the other is about putting out fire and treating the symptom. But yet, these two medical systems have a lot of similarities.
I mentioned last week that I really want to break down the information into bite sized pieces so it’s easier to understand and grasp the concepts. Especially when it comes to Chinese medicine.
To many of you it’s a fairly new way of looking at the human body. In today’s episode, I’m going to start with the very, very basic and talk about the core principle of Chinese medicine and its approach to wellness, which is to always strive for balance.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Hello and welcome to season 4! Can't believe that it's almost been a year since I launched this podcast.
This episode is a preview episode. I just had so much to update you on that there's no way to squeeze in more content.
So, I'm going to be talking about what to expect in this upcoming season. I'm doing things a bit differently so that I can provide more value, and help you get to your goal.
I'll be back next week with Episode 1. I'm so excited!
Ahhhhh, yes, the Two-Week-Wait, or 2WW...
The Two-Week-Wait is the time between ovulation and when you test for pregnancy.
You’ve done everything you could up until this point.
You tracked ovulation and you did the baby dance and now….you wait.
You find yourself “symptom checking.”
Ohhhh, is that an implantation cramp?
Do I feel slight nausea?
Did my boobs get bigger?
You also can’t help it but hop onto fertility blogs and forums to see if anyone else out there is feeling the same way.
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
The two weeks wait feels like an eternity, it feels like two years instead of two weeks. This anguish and anxiety comes from the unknown and the fact that you’ve done everything you could up to this point, and there’s little you can do now except just waiting and waiting.
Many people will tell you don’t stress...yeah right. That’s the worst advice ever. It’s important for you to understand that you’re not a crazy person, you’re not over-analyzing, what you’re feeling is completely normal. So why fight it? Telling yourself not to think about it is going to cause more anxiety and stress.
I’ve been through thousands of 2WWs with patients and clients.
While what’s done is done and you can’t change your egg quality at this time, there are things you can do to ease the anxiety and stay positive during this time.
But in this episode, I want to share with you my best tips on how to boost your chances of implantation while maintaining your sanity and staying positive.
I received a personal message yesterday after a long day at work. And it’s my favorite type of message - a pregnancy success story.
One of my listeners wanted to let me know that she has been following me for a few months and she incorporated my diet advice as part her daily routine. She is now pregnant and planning her gender reveal party.
It was so amazing to receive this message. First, she took the time out of her day to write me a note, and secondly, I’m so happy that I was able to make a difference on her journey.
For many of you, hearing about success stories is a double edged sword. It can certain give you a ray of hope, that “if she can do it, I can too.” But it can also cause the comparison blues
“Why is it so easy for her, but not me?”
Sure the FOMO Syndrome might be partly to blame here. We see Facebook and Instagram posts of cute pregnancy selfies, baby bump pictures and baby nursery decor. It’s hard not to feel like we’re missing out on all of those things.
But today, I want to actually address your burning questions “why her, not me.” Yes, there is a very real explanation why it maybe easy for some but others to get pregnant. At the end of this episode, you’re going to feel a whole lot better because you can actually do something about it.
Links mentioned in this episode:
Season 3 Episode 9: How to Avoid FOMO and Be Happier