In our private group, I get this general feeling that there’s so much information out there and it’s hard to figure out who to listen to or what applies to you. But a common theme that I’m sensing is that many people are putting stress on their bodies without even realizing it.
If you remember from a previous episode, we went over the idea of the kidney energy reservoir and how genetics, lifestyle choices can seriously impact how quickly we use up the energy in the reservoir. Even though I think people get this concept that if you withdraw from a savings bank without depositing back in, you’ll end up with a deficit...I don’t think the message really hit home because Chinese medicine concepts can be a little abstract.
So today I want to approach this from a functional medicine perspective and talk about stress, the different types of stress, and how it seriously damages your HPA axis and therefore can affect your chances of getting pregnant.
In this episode, I will:
I’ve also created an assessment for you to gauges your risk for HPA axis Dysregulation, and it will quickly give you an idea of where you fall on the spectrum.
To get your hands on this assessment, you can download it at adriennewei.com/63download.
Let’s face it, in today’s modern world, information is a commodity because we can just open Google, type in our questions, and boom! We get access to hundreds and thousands of search results.
If you want a recipe, you can hop on pinterest and there are thousands of recipes to choose from.
And then also you have that friend or blogger who has the heart of gold with all good intentions. She wants to share with you what worked for her, the one supplement that made a difference, or this great cleanse she went on and that was the month she got pregnant.
And it’s hard not to look at your own situation and go, gosh I wonder if that will work for me.
You get what I’m saying right? No wonder you can get confused.
But based on my experience, I find that we tend to filter the information. We only see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear. If we come across a piece of information and for whatever reason it resonates with us, we’re going to want to be believe it.
So my main goal for this episode is to going to teach you to be your own guide, and navigate through the fertility information jungle in a really smart way. Not to completely stop googling or reading blog, but to be able to look at the information with a critical eye.
So today, I want you to meet Sarah.
Sarah is a mom to a beautiful little boy and she is trying to conceive for the second time but unfortunately suffered two miscarriages back to back.
In this episode, we talk a lot about nutrition because Sarah is a vegetarian and has been for many years. Even though animal protein is my preferred source for proteins, I never ever force anyone to stop being a vegetarian. So don’t worry, I do not try to convince Sarah to switch her eating habits. But I give Sarah a few pointers on how to adjust her diet to boost her fertility.
Sarah is super inquisitive. She asked a bunch of great questions that I think you’re going to love hearing the answers to. Some of these questions I see coming up over and over again in our private group, so it’s going to provide clarity for those of you who are confused about certain concepts.
It sounds familiar right?
You're doing everything possible to improve your health and get pregnant, but your husband or partner doesn't seem to understand or willing to pull their fair share of the weight...especially when sperm quality issues are the reasons standing between you and your growing family.
In today's episode, I interview licensed counselor Kasandra Wheeler to get her top tips on how to start these difficult conversations with our S.O. without getting into a screaming match.
Kasandra shares her tips on what to do when:
1. Your husband doesn't seem to understand the emotional impact of the BFN.
2. He has poor sperm quality but is unwilling to make the lifestyle changes.
3. He is unwilling to explore other treatment options such as IVF, IUI, or alternative therapies.
Kasandra also shares her "Worry-Period" technique for reducing overall anxiety and depression.
#58 - The One Thing I'm Scared to Tell You
In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about the blueprint to pregnancy and which areas you should focus your attention and what your blueprint to pregnancy should look like.
This episode is inspired by a trend of what I call “kitchen sink fertility.” I’m not shaming or blaming or criticizing you. I just see so many women overcomplicate things. Kitchen sink fertility is a knee jerk reaction when you first realize that you’re faced with fertility challenges. So you literally try every single trick that you read about and take every single supplement that you can hoping something will work. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. And when they don’t, you’re more frustrated because you cannot figure out why it’s not working. And then you get depressed because you feel like there’s nothing more to do.
I hear from a lot of you that you’re overwhelmed, you don’t know which way to turn, or where to start looking for answers. So today, I want to share with you a step by step process to help you come up with your own blueprint to getting pregnant.
This past Monday, I did something scary and felt really vulnerable. In the special episode, I talked about how I’m restructuring all my programs hoping to serve you better and help you get pregnant. But if I can be honest with you, it was kind of an emotional episode for me to record.
Before I hit publish for that episode, I went through a range of emotions. I was scared of being judged. In my head I was playing out what other people would say, like “oh there she goes again, wishy-washy, always changing things up.” Or “that was one huge sales pitch and she’s just using this as an opportunity to promote her program.” I also felt like I’ve let other people down. It felt like I had pulled the rug from underneath all the people that were perhaps thinking about joining the membership site. Also I felt like I’ve let myself down, like a failure that after two years here I am back at square one and still figuring things out.
Over the years, somehow I got it in my head that my self-worth is tied to how others think of me. I always feel like I have to maintain a certain image and have to be perfect.
But, I sort of had a moment after I hit publish on Monday for the special episode. As I worked through all my emotions, I said to myself, “wow, how will I inspire others to take action and face their fears if I am not leading by example.”
So that brings me to today’s episode.
I am going to take the first step towards conquering my fear of being judged or criticized by sharing something that I’ve been afraid to tell you.
This is going to be pretty deep, and I appreciate the fact that you’re giving me this opportunity to share my thoughts as I work towards more self compassion and more self acceptance.
So let’s dive in.
Today, we’re going to be talking about a healthy diet vs a fertile diet and I’m going to shock you by talking about one hormone that’s the most crucial for fertility (hint: it’s not estrogen.)
Anytime I post anything about nutrition or diet, the posts always generate the most responses. I think this an area that most people struggle with. Food across all cultures bring up emotions for everyone, whether it’s joy, sadness, anger, fear, whatever. Humans have such deep emotional connection to food because we have to eat to live.
But what I find is that there are lots of misconceptions around nutrition and what’s healthy what’s not. I have a dramatically different viewpoint on nutrition than a lot of other practitioners and coaches. I don’t believe a healthy diet is necessarily a fertile diet, but type in fertiles diets in google, and your eyes might pop out from the number of results and also the different people telling you different things.
So the purpose of this episode is not to convince you that what I recommend is the best, or which diet you should be following. But I hope this episode can really explain how nutrition plays a role to help you get pregnant or how it can actually be preventing you from getting pregnant if you’re not eating a fertile diet. I’m a firm believer that knowledge is power, if you truly understand a concept then it becomes easier to make changes and stick to a plan.
Ep 55 - Overview of Male Fertility
I don’t know if this sounds like you...but, in my ten years of coaching women on how to get pregnant, I’ve seen this plenty of times.
At some point of your journey, you’re going to get to a point where you feel defeated because nothing you’re doing is working. At times you may even question your own will power, maybe I’m just not cut out for this. This happens so frequently, and it’s not your fault.
So in today’s episode, I want to talk about how to regain your motivation when you feel defeated. I want to help you to get back to when you first started trying-to-conceive, to that level of excitement you had before any of the heartaches and disappointments started to take over.
I know how hard it can be to keep charging forward when you feel like the odds are stacked up against you, when you feel alone, when you feel sad and depressed.
There is no magic pill that you can take to go from” one minute laying on the floor crying” to “the next minute you’re ready to conquer the world.” But I’m going to share with you my tips and tricks to help you get back on the horse, and keep moving forward towards your goal.
Let’s dive right in.
#26 - Ask this one question if you feel defeated
#49 - How to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from pregnancy (Part 1)
#50 - How to overcome limiting beliefs that are preventing you from pregnancy (part 2)
Today, we’re going to talk about male fertility because guess what, it still takes two-to-tango, and you need a sperm and an egg to get pregnant.
Male fertility sometimes gets overlooked. And I don’t know if it’s something deeper but when a couple is having trouble conceiving, the woman is the presumed person with the problem. But here is the scary thing, male fertility issues now account for 40% of all infertility cases.
So in this episode, I’m going to give you an overview of male fertility, from a western point of view and from a chinese medicine perspective. When it comes to male fertility, the nutrition, lifestyle, and supplement requirements are slightly different than female fertility. We’re going to get to all that eventually in upcoming episodes, but today we’re just going to be looking at the bigger picture of male fertility. I also get a lot of questions about how to read semen analysis results so I’m going to go over that as well.
I firmly believe that the more information you have, the more empowered you will be and the better decisions you will make. So let’s dive right in.
Today’s guest is Hilary, a member of the Practically Fertile™ Club.
Hilary reached out to me on one of our group coaching calls, and I decided to offer her the honor coaching opportunity because I needed more information about her situation to be able to answer her questions. I also thought it might be helpful to some of you who are in the same situation.
Hilary has been trying-to-conceive for 5 years. She’s currently in between IVF cycles and her major challenge is getting the uterine lining to the optimal thickness for a frozen embryo transfer.
In this coaching call, I help Hilary make tweaks to her nutrition plan and exercise plan to boost the amount of blood flow to the uterus.
Keep in mind that even though everyone is different and Hilary’s plan isn’t necessarily the right plan for you, you’re still going to gain new understanding and learn tips and tricks whether you’re on the IVF journey or you’re trying to conceive naturally.
Let’s dive into my live 1-on-1 honor coaching call with Hilary.
We live in a world where we are always on the go and sleep seems so overrated. God forbid if you sleep-in or take a nap, then you might feel like you’re missing out on something or people might think you’re lazy.
That is so wrong, especially for someone trying to get pregnant. I bet a lot of you don’t think about how sleep could possibly be affecting your fertility.
I often ask my patients about sleep and they always say sleep is good. But when I dive in deeper, I find that they’re actually tossing and turning all night long, or having to get up to use the bathroom at least once, or it takes more than an hour to fall asleep.
So in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how sleep ties into better fertility, what hormones are involved, and how much sleep you really need. Yes, there really is such thing as too much sleep.
Then I’ll give you my top 4 tips on how to improve your sleep hygiene without the use of medication.
Let’s dive in!
Today’s episode is going to be a really useful one. We’re going to be talking about Chinese medicine, and specifically the Chinese medicine perspective on the menstrual cycle.
In Episode 47 I talked about the four substances according to Chinese medicine. Today, we’re going to deep dive. You’ll get a better idea of how each substance corresponds to the 4 phases of the menstrual cycle and what you need to do to boost your fertility.
And I have a super awesome freebie for you too, it’s a recipes collection. I’m going to give you a sample recipe for each phase of the menstrual cycle.
To get your hands on this freebie, you can download it at adriennewei.com/52download.
Episode 40 - Why Was It So Easy for Her, But Not For Me
Episode 47 - The Four Substances and How They Affect Fertility